In the third video of the “Fathering in a Pandemic” series, Darryl Grayson provides a webinar reviewing the POPS 101 information concerning how fathers can be the best protectors, order keepers, providers, and stabilizers for their families. This introduces the POPS concept that will be reviewed in further detail in future videos.
Our lives have been turned upside down in the midst of COVID-19. Suddenly everything that we knew to be normal has now been redefined. Fathers are needed now to help provide stability to their families while we navigate through this pandemic. POPS is here to help give you some guidance and support.
Protector
The first goal of any father is to make sure that his family is protected. He is the protector from the unknown. He makes his home a safe place. The saying, “there is no place like home” is so true today. Our homes must be a place of safety and comfort. While we are all spending more time together at home, be sure that the time you are together is meaningful. Make sure that each day you find time to connect with one another. See how your children are feeling. It’s ok to let them know that you may have some anxious thoughts too, but you trust in God’s word. 1 Peter 5:7, says “Cast all your cares on him because he cares for you.”
Order Keeper
Currently, things may seem out of control, there is not the usual order of events anymore. Perhaps you had a daily schedule with your family, now is the time to set up a new routine. 1 Corinthians 14:40 says, “But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.” Take control of your home life and make sure that each day your children have a set schedule. Of course you will need to be flexible, but spending time with daily chores teaches responsibilities. Expecting that your child will read or do some sort of academic work will help their educational growth during this pandemic. In addition, always make sure to have some fun activities planned. Let your children help you plan a meal, or do some sort of fun family time. This is the moment to create family memories. Family bonding moments will last a lifetime.
Provider
Fathers can provide for their families in a variety of ways, whether it is financially, emotionally, or spiritually. However the most important way a father can provide for his family is by just being there, be present! Your love, and attention is key to the healthy development of your child. During this pandemic one of the main ways in which a father can provide is by keeping a positive attitude. This will be your biggest challenge, and yet one that will leave an invaluable impression on your child. Who would you rather your child remember during this pandemic, a father who was always negative or a father who started out each day with a smile and a positive thought? Be grateful for what you have and know that God will provide for all your needs. Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”
Stability
Fathers are the stabilizers of the home. Children look to their fathers to be the anchor in the storm. The one who keeps calm and has a positive attitude. Hebrews 6:19 says, “We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.” Our hope is in nothing less that Jesus Christ, He is the anchor in the storms of life. Fathers need to be intentional in their leadership styles using the examples of Jesus Christ as he led the disciples through the storms in the New Testament, with a calm and caring heart.
Biblical References
Protector
“Cast all your cares on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7,)
Order Keeper
“But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.” (1 Corinthians 14:40)
Provider
“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”
(Philippians 4:19)
Stabilizer
“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.” (Hebrews 6:19)