Episode 11: Fathering Strong Podcast – Father’s Day

https://youtu.be/bx-gbcwCQJg

Summary

In this episode of the Fathering Strong Podcast, Bruce and Eli discuss the history and significance of Father’s Day. They highlight the importance of fatherhood in improving the welfare of children, families, and communities. They explore the origins of Father’s Day and how it became a national holiday in the United States. They also provide suggestions for making Father’s Day celebrations more special, such as planning activities, giving thoughtful gifts, and creating meaningful memories. The episode concludes with a discussion on how communities can come together to recognize and honor good fathers through initiatives like the Good Dad Award.

Takeaways

  • Fatherhood is one of the greatest institutions on earth and when done right, it improves the welfare of children, families, and communities.
  • Father’s Day was established through the efforts of individuals like Grace Golden Clayton and Sonora Smart Dodd, and it became a national holiday in the United States in 1972.
  • Suggestions for making Father’s Day celebrations special include planning activities that both the father and child enjoy, giving thoughtful and personalized gifts, and creating meaningful memories together.
  • Communities can come together to recognize and honor good fathers through initiatives like the Good Dad Award. – Honoring fathers is not only a good idea, but it is also commanded by the heavenly father.

Chapters

00:00 – The History and Significance of Father’s Day

08:46 – Celebrating Father’s Day: Suggestions and Ideas

Podcast Episode 10: Father Wound

Summary

In this episode of the Fathering Strong podcast, Bruce and Eli discuss the concept of a father wound and its impact on individuals. A father wound refers to the emotional pain that arises from a problematic relationship with a father or father figure. This can be due to physical or emotional absence, abuse, criticism, or dismissiveness. Father wounds can lead to feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, and a constant need for validation. They can also impact relationships and parenting. Strategies for healing include acknowledging the pain, allowing oneself to feel and process emotions, seeking therapy or support groups, reflecting on the relationship with one’s father, practicing self-compassion, and forgiving oneself and others.

Takeaways

  • A father wound refers to the emotional pain resulting from a problematic relationship with a father or father figure.
  • Father wounds can arise from physical or emotional absence, abuse, criticism, or dismissiveness.
  • Father wounds can lead to feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, and a constant need for validation.
  • Healing strategies include acknowledging the pain, allowing oneself to feel and process emotions, seeking therapy or support groups, reflecting on the relationship with one’s father, practicing self-compassion, and forgiving oneself and others.

Chapters

00:00 – Understanding the Impact of Father Wounds

06:25 – Identifying the Consequences of Unhealed Father Wounds

28:21 – The Christian Viewpoint on Healing Father Wounds

The Impact God Had On Me as a Father

A father’s heart is built on the foundation of a relationship with the Heavenly Father which makes for a strong family. This video reveals three father’s stories on what the Heavenly Father has meant in their lives and roles as a father to their families.

Mikes Story:

When I was age 10 my dad received Jesus into his heart. It was like a light switch went on in our home. The fighting that was happening daily ceased. My father was reading the Bible. He seemed to take more time with us as kids and got more involved in our lives. We began to go to church and over time that just began to bring about a huge change in our home and in our lives.

Curtis Story:

If I didn’t have a relationship with God then none of this is possible. It’s like you’re giving God the control and not the control of your life but the belief that he’s gonna lead you in the direction you need to go. It’s just so powerful that I’m getting goosebumps talking about it. Being in his will is the best thing that ever had to happen to me. I’m a living example of what God can do for you and that’s more powerful than anything I can say.

Phil’s Story:

One of the biggest things is the fact that I could forgive my own father now. My father left and he scarred me. But now that I have that relationship with God and I know that I’ve been forgiven for all the mistakes I made in the past. The Lord knows I wasn’t perfect. I’ve been able to forgive my own father. My hope now is that I will see him in heaven. I think that he found that same forgiveness and love through Jesus Christ that I did so that I will get to meet him again in heaven. When it comes to my son, Jacob it’s important for me to be that witness to show him. He has seen the change in me, big time actually. I’m proud of that. He’s been able to see that walked I have now. That I’ve changed and that I’m the type of person I want him to be. I just have to continue to be a witness for Jesus Christ and be that example of Jesus Christ to him.

Curtis Story – What Father Love Did for Him

The Impact Father Love made on Curtis as a Dad

Hi, my name is Curtis from New Hope Church. Taking a class presented by Eli Williams.

I was in church and it was suggested by my Pastor to take a class called Father Love. It teaches you about how the way God loves you. I went to the class and immediately the classes had a direct impact. I felt as if Eli was speaking straight to me in a room full of multiple men. I was learning tools about a father’s love and how to love my kids as God loves me.

It taught me how to be more caring and forgiving and more patient. Also less angry. The class benefited my children and me. When I started utilizing the tools and acknowledging the way that God loves me with my own kids I saw a direct impact, an immediate impact in the way I feel and the way my children look at me now.

Craig’s Story – Putting God in His Life

Putting God First In My Life

One of the things I always like to share is that you know I was introduced to Narcotics Anonymous in the 12-step program and that program introduced me to a sponsor. The sponsor introduced me to the 12 steps. And, I always say the 12 steps introduced me to the God of my understanding.

So when I grew up in a Catholic Church the only thing I knew about God was I went to church every Sunday, Wednesday and during holidays. I was a kid that never had a relationship with God. I didn’t know what God meant to me until I worked the steps. I asked God to take care of me and I made a commitment to be a part of what God wanted for me .

One of the things that we talked about is looking what God’s will for me is and having the power to carry that out. I know that without the belief that God is caring for me none of this would be possible. Being there for my kids and and being there for myself and and taking care of myself when I get sick with all these health issues. If I didn’t have a relationship with God then none of it’s possible and it’s like you’re giving God the control. It’s the belief that he’s gonna lead you in the direction you need to go. It’s just so powerful! I’m getting goosebumps talking about it.

Being in his will is the best thing that ever had happened to me. I’m forever grateful for that and I talked to my kids about living in God’s will and God’s grace and what it means to me. I’m just hoping one day that I’ll be asked how did I get that how did I get there. Being available for them. When I was a kid it was like everybody around me would always say these different things about God and Jesus. I never understood it. But I know for me today I’m a living example of what God can do for you and that’s more powerful than anything I can say.