The Bible is the greatest instructional guide for fathers. It clearly outlines how aThe Bible is the greatest instructional guide for fathers. It clearly outlines how a father is to treat, instruct, guide, nurture, and provide for his children. Throughout the Bible, you will find verse after verse that will equip fathers to become the father that God intended them to be. Let’s take a look at some of the most important attributes that a Godly father must possess.
Compassion means showing concern for others, understanding their pain, “and the desire to somehow mitigate that pain.”Why do you think a father should be able to show compassion? Share a time in which you showed compassion. Talk with your children about showing compassion and decide how best you and your children can show compassion this week to someone in need.
Discipline is hard, and yet it is absolutely necessary for a child to grow and mature into a responsible adult. As adults, we find that sometimes God will discipline us. Share with your child how you have seen God at work disciplining your life. There are times in which we stray from being present with God. When that happens, He will guide us back to Him. In the same way, a father must gently guide his child through correction and discipline. Discipline can be done in a quiet, respectful way. Be sure to make eye contact with your child and let them know that their behavior/action is unacceptable but you still love them. Love is the key to successful discipline.
It’s been said that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a good reason. We need to listen twice as much as we talk. This verse highlights that a father’s instructions are worth paying attention to and understanding. When you give your child an instruction, ask your child to repeat what you just said to be sure they understand.
The word “exasperate” means to irritate or frustrate intensely. This verse clearly says that Fathers do not anger or annoy your children, instead train them in the way of the Lord, showing kindness, gentleness, self-control, patience. Not always easy after a long day, but by keeping your temper at bay, will show that you are trying to represent Godly instruction in true righteousness and holiness. The next time you find yourself about to lose your patience, take a moment to pray for patience and remember that your son or daughter is a “Child of God” and you are given the amazing responsibility to train them in the ways of the Lord.
The goal of every father is to provide for his family, therefore if a child asks for food, you wouldn’t give him something harmful, instead, you would provide something that would provide nourishment. Providing for a child can come in a variety of ways. Providing for the health and well being of a child is the primary way in which a father can show his love and support to his child. Providing doesn’t always mean financially but can also mean mentally and spiritually. List a few ways you are providing for your child that doesn’t cost anything. Some examples might be, spending time together, talking, walking, riding bikes, teaching a new skill. These are all valuable ways that show you are a provider.
Fathers are “indispensable” in the lives of their children. A father’s love, support, encouragement, and quiet strength are so important to the natural growth and spiritual development of any child. Never doubt that a father’s guiding hand and Godlyinstructions can have a lasting impact on their child. May God bless you each day because you MATTER in the life of your child(ren).
“As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;” (Psalm 103:13
“My son, do not despise theLord’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke because theLord disciplines those he loves...”(Proverbs 3: 11-12)
“Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding.” (Proverbs 4:1)
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)
“Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead?” (Luke 11:11)