October 27, 2023 – Springfield OH: Urban Light Ministries is hosting the first Springfield Mayor’s Breakfast, which will be held on Thursday, Nov. 16 at 7:30 a.m. in the ballroom of the Courtyard by Marriott Springfield Downtown, 100 S. Fountain Ave.
The event will honor retiring Mayor Warren Copeland for his many years of service and welcome incoming Mayor Rob Rue, who is running unopposed, as he prepares to lead the city into a new era. During the event, musical entertainment will be provided by local musician St. James. Clergy representing the Simunye pastors group will pray blessings over the city and will offer thanksgiving for the progress made over the last decade.
“As with every city, our town has challenges to overcome. But it is good to pause at least once per year to reflect upon and give thanks for our many blessings,” said Rev. Eli Williams, Urban Light Ministries president and co-founder. “What better time is there than as we approach Thanksgiving?”
The event’s sponsors include: The City of Springfield, Mercy Health, Modern Woodmen of America, Littleton and Rue Funeral Home & Crematory, Simunye, The Nehemiah Foundation, Realtor Britney Dodds, Stuckey & Troutwine CPAs, The Turner Foundation, Greater Springfield Partnership, The Conscious Connect CDC, ProStratus, Attorney Mark F. Roberts, Arrowhead Tax Service and Clark State College. Event sponsorships are still available at the $300, $600, $1,500 and $2,000 levels. For more information, call 937-727-4891.
Springfield, Ohio, June 16, 2023: The winners of the annual Good Dad Awards have been announced and will be awarded this Saturday, June 17 at the Springfield Juneteenth/Fatherfest event at 2:00 pm. The event is held annually at the Gammon House at 620 Piqua Place, Springfield, Ohio and the award is sponsored by Urban Light Ministries.
The aim of the Good Dad Award is to recognize the significant role fathers play in their children’s well-being and development and to raise awareness of the value of fathers in the family and the community. It identifies and honors outstanding fathers for their exceptional commitment to raising their children or for their exemplary contribution to the development of children in the community.
The Good Dad Fatherhood Award nominees meet one or more of the following criteria:
Demonstrates an outstanding commitment to raising his children
Is an exemplary father
Is an inspirational role-model who, as a father, has triumphed over adversity
Contributes to the development and well-being of children in the community
Provides significant leadership and inspiration to other fathers
The 2023 winners are: John Applin, Corey Burns, Demetrius Carter, Carter Click, James Cosper, Kareem Crossley, Caleb Cunningham, Ross Cunningham, Nate Fleming, Jerome Flowers, Austin Floyd, Tyler Gray, Scott Griffith, Vincent Hall, Jr., Vincent Hall, III, Harold Howard, Gyasi Jones, Wayne Meyers, Chochi Ongaki, Eudes Padilla, Clay Pahlau, Drew Randolph, James Rayburn, Antonio Reid, Dwight Roe, Jr., Timothy Showmaker, Ralph St. James, Richard W. Stokes, Michael Stroder, Andrew Stump, Tray Thomas, James B. Upshaw, Hugh Watts, and Thomas White.
Nearly 18.5 million U.S. children are living in homes absent their biological fathers. Needless to say, that’s not good.
It is a well-researched fact that kids with a dad at home perform better in school than their father-absent peers. Such children tend to also be in better health – emotionally, behaviorally, and physically. They are less likely to abuse drugs, to be poor, or to get into trouble with authorities. The very best thing for children is for their dads and moms to lovingly raise their children together. Too often, tragically, the dad and the love are missing.
Realistically, today a traditional family is not a possibility for many boys and girls. The failure of families to form, divorce, incarceration, and many other causes leave kids without the parenting support they need to grow up healthy, safe and ready to thrive. The research is clear that those children are far better off when their live-away fathers are consistently and healthily involved in co-parenting them. Unless they are a danger to their children, all fathers should be encouraged, equipped, and supported as valued parents, whether they live with their kids or not.
Statement of Need
The growing youth mental health crisis, an opioid epidemic, among other things point to a society in deep trouble. Mass shootings, which have become increasingly common in recent years, have claimed the lives of over 200 individuals and injured over 12,000, a shocking number of whom were children and teens. Fatherlessness is at the root of the crises. The following is an excerpt from the 2023 publication Fathering Strong – The Real Epidemic Today, page 8.
Researchers concluded that children with a positive psychosocial influence are less likely to engage in mass violence. In 2016, psychologist Dr. Peter Langman compiled biographical data on 56 American school shooters. He found that 82% had grown up in dysfunctional family situations, usually without two biological parents at home. The trend sadly continues. The shooter in Uvalde, Texas had not lived with his father in years. The Sandy Hook shooter hadn’t seen his father in the two years leading up to that massacre.
Over the years, various fatherhood initiatives have endeavored to strengthen the institution of fatherhood with minimal impact upon the culture. A new approach is needed to create a 21st century culture that embraces fatherhood, and engages, encourages, and equips fathers to excel at effective fathering. A strategy that directly reaches and edifies individual fathers while building community among them, facilitating peer support and enables skill-building will be more effective over time. To do that, fathers must be reached where they are – on their mobile devices. In the past 12 months approximately one-quarter million searches of Urban Light’s website for fatherhood resources have demonstrated the need.
Urban Light Ministries (ULM) is a nonprofit organization established in 1995 in Springfield, Ohio serving children and families. Starting with local fatherhood classes in 2006, ULM progressed to leading the Miami Valley Partnership for Fathers in 2008. The regional project comprised four organizations serving fathers in 11 centers across 5 counties. In 2011, ULM began what became a model of community mobilization in Clark County. In the decade 2009 to 2019, ULM served an average of 500 fathers per year throughout the Dayton region in various settings including jails, prisons, social service agencies, churches, schools, and in our own facilities.
Program participants gained tools for nurturing parenting, relationship building, and personal growth. James C, one of the participants stated: “Out of the 13-week course, I’ve learned how to communicate with my kids without being intimidating or abusive. I’ve learned to listen to their needs… not only with my kids, but also with other people, and with my kids’ mother. I listen to their thoughts versus being demanding or controlling.”
In 2019, ULM began offering online programming, including daily and weekly fatherhood devotionals, fatherhood courses, informative blog articles, and more. The organization’s 2020 strategic plan called for development of online and mobile resources to engage more fathers. The COVID-19 pandemic added urgency to the project. Research and planning for Fathering Strong have proceeded since then. After 12 months utilizing digital marketing strategies, the ULM website has generated approximately 250,000 searches for fatherhood resources and information. The Fathering Strong project is nearing beta launch stage.
1,000 (83% of engaged) fathers will self-report an increase in their knowledge of best parenting practices, a deepening of their commitment to effective parenting, improvement in their co-parenting skills, or other advancement.
By 12 months from official launch, ULM’s Fathering Strong project will engage 1,200 fathers in online communities where they are regularly inspired and equipped to be their best as nurturing dads for the sake of their children and families.
Launch and continue development of the Fathering Strong website (beta) where dads will discover helpful information and resources for enriching their parenting and relationship skills.
Fathers join online communities with others facing similar challenges.
Fathers enroll in courses to develop new parenting skills, self-study or group.
Launch and continue development of the Fathering Strong mobile app (beta).
Fathers receive regular notifications of resources available on the website and events in their geographic local area.
Fathers engage in chats with other dads for mutual edification and encouragement.
Fathers contribute posts and articles.
Continue to build the resources available on Fathering Strong while bringing on new partners.
Leverage digital marketing strategies, including the Google Ad Grant to promote and grow Fathering Strong reach and impact.
12 months from start date. Following the official launch of the website and mobile app, the project will phase in additional features.
The total cost of the Fathering Strong launch project is $276,600.
Urban Light Ministries has committed $76,600 to the project and we are seeking $100,000 from grant makers. We are asking individuals, churches and corporate sponsors to fund $100,000 of the project budget. Our organization’s annual budget is $420,000.
The ongoing costs of Fathering Strong will be defrayed by project income generation. Although there will be no cost to participating fathers for the basic membership, there will be charges for some resources.
Books, branded items such as hats, tees and mugs.
Practitioners’ Portal for professionals
Business Portal for corporate partners
To view this informational review of Fathering Strong in a printable pdf format please click here.
Today marks the beginning of a new way for fathers to connect with each other. Why is connecting important? There are many reasons. For starters, here are five.
Being a good father is difficult, challenging work, even in the best of circumstances.
We need each other because none of us has everything figured out.
Many of us have valuable experiences that are worth sharing with other dads.
Each of us can be inspired by others’ triumphs and joys in fathering.
There is no other place to go for this kind of resource (as far as we know).
The bottom line? We can make each other better, stronger, more loving.
What is Fathering Strong?
It is a growing community of fathers still in the early stages of formation. Fathering Strong is a free mobile app that enables fathers to engage with each other in respectful, confidential, healthy, positive, and optimistic ways. Smaller communities of fathers in similar circumstances will form. Fathering Strong is also a developing robust website, which will be full of helpful information for healthy, nurturing parenting and co-parenting. Relevant and up-to-date video content, links, courses, devotionals, books, research, merch, and more.
Powered by Urban Light Ministries, Fathering Strong brings decades of experience working with fathers, children, and families from many walks of life. As a father, fatherhood practitioner, male mentor, and fatherhood program leader, I am delighted to be part of this new 21st-century century resource for holistically strengthening dads and the institution of fatherhood. But it is you – the Fathering Strong community member that makes it work.
We promise to offer up current, well-researched information and resources on fatheringstrong.com. It will be honest, though sometimes not politically correct. It will be spiritual and Bible-based, though never preachy, or overly religious. All fathers are welcome. Whether biological, step, adoptive, male relative, foster, single and whatever your marital status.
I will offer up brief daily messages called Strength for Today, which are meant to encourage, inspire and challenge dads in their growth. It will include a scripture, a prayer, and an action step. I hope you are blessed by them.
Welcome to the Fathering Strong Community.
Eli Williams, President Urban Light Ministries, Inc.
An article written by Bob Griffin stated the real problem; “The need for a father is on an epidemic scale, and the “father deficit” should be treated as a public health issue.”
According to the 2020 U.S. Census 18.4 million children are living without a biological father. This means that out of the 73 million children in the U.S. 23% are without a present father. This number has doubled since 1968 and continues to increase. Literature associated with father absence indicates that growing up in a father absent household can be associated with negative wellbeing and life adversity among children. Father absence can have negative effects on a child’s life such as depression, drug and alcohol abuse, anxiety, psychological issues, a tendency for violence, and sexual and criminal activities. Absence is also felt by the mothers as they work through pregnancy, birth, and raising a child alone.
A detailed research study titled, “Father Facts Eight Edition,” published in 2019, by the National Fatherhood Initiative consolidated over 212 research projects and studies conducted on the effects of families and communities due to a lack of a father in the home.
The research is overwhelming and makes the point with clear and unequivocal evidence: children need good dads.
The Impact of Father Love
Eli Williams, the author of the book,” Father Love – The Powerful Resource that Every Child Needs,” defines what it means to be a loving father and the protector, order keeper, provider, and stabilizer the family and community needs to remain strong and vibrant. In the book he ties together the important aspects of not only working to become a better father but also making the commitment to be a loving and faithful servant to God. Becoming a stronger father means becoming committed to the word of God. It is the belief that giving your life to Christ is the way to becoming a more loving and stronger father.
The last verse in the Old Testament of the Bible that was written before Christ came to this earth is in Malachi 4:6 – “And we will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.” A clear statement of the impact a father plays in the role of his children and the stability of society.
Causes of father absence is a complex phenomenon produced by many circumstances and situations. Some are related to choices people make about fertility, marriage, and cohabitation.
But others are the results of unexpected events, illnesses, or incarceration. It is very likely that fatherlessness has different meanings and implications for those of differing social classes.
A father is called to be the leader and protector of the household. This may be foreign to most fathers who choose to be absent in their child’s lives.
This paper supports the impact statement of the mission for Fathering Strong, a network and community established to build up fathers and support their needs to become stronger and more committed leaders of the families and followers of Jesus Christ.
The Facts of Father Absence
At a national level 18.4 million children are living without their biological father.
Father absence disproportionally affects black children, and nearly a quarter of American children live in father-absent homes. The table below identifies the percentages by ethnicity.
Ethnicity of Children
Lived with Both Parent
Lived with Mother Only
Lived with Father Only
Lived with Neither Parent
In 2017, 35% of unmarried parents cohabitated and 53% of unmarried parents were solo mothers. Resident fathers had consistently higher levels of involvement than separated/divorced and nonresident fathers; however, both types of fathers did not have statistically different involvement when their child was 1 year old. Some additional facts revealed by the study included:
Separated and divorced fathers had a higher level of involvement than nonresident fathers.
FatherInvolvement was found to decrease over time
Fathers with Education including high school or bachelor’s degree were found to be more involved
The Positive Impact of a Present Father
Children need an involved father in their lives. Research has proven that children that grow up with a father in their lives do better in almost every aspect that was measured.
In a study conducted by professors at the University of Missouri it was found that adolescents who had resident biological or adoptive fathers were shown to have higher GPAs than those with unknown fathers. Adolescents with unknown fathers, deceased fathers, and non-residential fathers all had lower GPAs than those with residential biological fathers. Divorce, non-marital birth, and child abandonment all negatively affect a child’s GPA and their ability to do well in school.
A subsample of Black adolescents from the National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent Health revealed the impact a father figure (i.e. non-biological fathers) can have on the education of a child. The research showed that:
Female adolescents and participants who had a parent who attended college were more likely to believe they would finish college.
Adolescents with nonresident, biological fathers were less likely to expect to finish college.
Communication about school yielded the most significant positive influence on participants’ grades.
Data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, they studied the influence of six different categories of father type—resident biological fathers, resident stepfathers, resident adoptive fathers, non-resident biological fathers, unknown biological fathers, and deceased fathers—on adolescents’ school performance from seventh through twelfth grade. The researchers found that:
Adolescents with resident biological fathers had higher school performance than adolescents with nonresident fathers.
Adolescents with stepfathers had higher rates of school failure than those who lived with their biological parents.
Adolescents without a resident father figure and didn’t know the identity of their fathers had the highest risk of school failure.
Better able to control their emotions – these children were less likely to have emotional or behavioral problems and four times less likely to have a mood disorder.
Better physical health – children with involved fathers were less likely to be overweight and 2 times less likely to die as infants.
Healthier relationships – a good, involved father’s views affect what his daughter looks for in a boyfriend or husband. His views affect what kind of dad or husband his son will become.
Feel safe and confident – children are safer when their dad lives with them. Children that grow up without a father are at a greater risk of child abuse.
Less likely to use drugs and alcohol – children who abuse drugs and alcohol do so because they lack the love and connection a father and other family members provide.
Perform better in school – when a father is present children are more likely to get A’s, 2 times less likely to repeat a grade and less likely to have behavioral problems in school.
Less likely to be poor – when a father is present children are 4 times less likely to live in poverty
More likely to stay out of trouble – fathers play an important role in keeping children from taking harmful risks and committing crimes.
Effects of Father Absence on Children
Father absence places children and communities at a greater risk for many of the problems that law enforcement deals with daily.
The data supports the root cause for most problems in society today could be prevented if fathers were present and actively involved in their child(ren)’s life. The research points to the importance of father involvement as a protective factor against these top five areas that effect a child’s well-being.
Higher Rate of Depression and Suicide – The quality of father involvement is associated with higher levels behavioral problems. Research found that children with stable father figures had better cognitive and socio-emotional outcomes.
Greater Chance of Substance Abuse – The quality of a father’s involvement has direct correlation to early substance abuse regardless of gender. An absent father, children with abusive fathers or those that abuse drugs are at a much higher risk.
Higher Rate of Crime – Father absence has been closely linked to criminal activity for young men and was a predictor for higher rates of youth assault. Also, a poor-quality relationship has an impact on delinquency.
Earlier Sexual Activity – Studies link earlier and riskier sexual behavior to father absence. Adolescents from father-absent homes were 3.5 times more likely to experience pregnancy than were adolescents from father-present homes.
Poor Educational Outcomes – The duration of a father’s absence has been proven to be a factor in a child’s educational success. The lowest achievement and highest risk of school failure was from adolescents without resident father figures.
Effects of Father Absence on the Mother’s Well-being
If the dad is involved, it means good health outcomes for mom and baby.
Fathers not only effect their child’s well-being with their absence but the mothers of their children as well. Contemporary culture encourages promiscuity by redefining freedom and prioritizing autonomy over responsibility. When sex outside the marriage becomes normal, it is mostly the women who are left on their own to raise the resulting children.
Antenatal depression can creep up in the absence of a husband/partner. It has been shown that mothers who are either married to, or co-parenting with a father have less stress in their parenting. Even if it is just a matter of helping with chores or interacting with your child it provides less stress for the mother.
In a national sample of women ages 10-19 who experienced pregnancy, it was observed that a lack of partner support correlated with harmful birth outcomes. Low birth weight that often results in child loss was less likely in pregnancies where the pregnant mother was receiving partner support. Specifically, teens that are pregnant and have partner support are less likely to have preterm birth. If the dad is involved, it means good health outcomes for mom and baby.
A study conducted in 2018 revealed that when fathers showed low sensitivity, high intrusiveness, and provided little opportunities for child social engagement, the family process was less cohesive. This implies a decrease in the family’s harmonious, warm, and collaborative style.
Correlation Between Absent Fathers and Mass Shootings
By Spring of 2022 there had been 250 mass shootings which had killed more than 256 people and injured 1,010 through the end of May. Many of the young male perpetrators had problems going on at home. Whether the father was physically or mentally absent the shooter were lacking a father. Mass shooters have been known to have a mental illness, delinquent behavior, and violent tendencies. They also frequently do not attend school, hate it, or are failing out. These are all problems shown to be caused by an absent father.
A large factor missing in the life of mass shooters is a positive psychosocial influence. In a study conducted by the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology it was shown that 85% of the mass school shooters they researched suffered with depression. When they spoke of depression this included diagnosed depression or significant symptoms including suicidality, anhedonia, hopelessness, guilt, and sadness.
This lack of a positive psychosocial influence meant:
a lack of established academic or other goals in their lives
little to no encouragement to make goals for their lives and seek to complete them
Researchers concluded that children with a positive psychosocial influence are less likely to engage in mass violence.
In 2016, psychologist Dr. Peter Langman compiled biographical data on 56 American school shooters. He found that 82% had grown up in dysfunctional family situations, usually without two biological parents at home. The trend sadly continues. The shooter in Uvalde, Texas had not lived with his father in years. The Sandy Hook shooter hadn’t seen his father in the two years leading up to that massacre.
The Cost to Society Due to Father Absence
The total expenditures added up to a startling $99.8 billion.
In 2008 a study, the first of its kind, provided insight into the estimate cost to taxpayers due to father absence. It estimated the annual expenditures made by the U.S. federal government to support father-absent homes. The total expenditures added up to a startling $99.8 billion.
The study supports the facts that father absence contributes to financial poverty. Thirty-nine percent of single-mother families live in poverty. But only 8.8% of families with fathers present lived in poverty. The $99.8 billion was spent on programs such as Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), child support enforcement, food and nutrition programs, housing programs and the State Children’s Health Insurance Plan (SCHIP).
The $99.8 billion cost is a conservative estimate, as it leaves out 3 significant, but hard to measure, sources of costs:
Federal benefits programs that improve whole communities or individuals regardless of income.
Indirect costs related to the poor outcomes of children of single-mother families, such as greater use of mental and physical health services, and a higher rate of involvement in the juvenile justice system.
Long-term costs in reduced tax income due to the lower earnings of children of single-parent families, and long-term costs due to the higher incarceration of children of single-parent families.
In 2010, President Obama signed the Claims Resolution Act which provided $150 million per year in grants to promote healthy marriage ($75 million) and responsible fatherhood ($75 million).
The most obvious consequence of father absence is the effect it has on household income, and the corresponding increase in single-mother households’ use of means-tested benefits programs. The best overall aggregate estimate available is that 20.1 percent of single mothers would leave poverty if marriage rates returned to what they were in 1970.
Different Types of Fathers Bring Different Challenges
Building stronger fathers means meeting them where they are. There are many circumstances that create barriers to being a good father and understanding the different types of fathers helps build programs that meet their needs and help them be the best father based on their requirements.
Teen fathers have many risk factors associated with transitioning to fatherhood including lack of education, unemployment, societal treatment, and the fact they are still growing up themselves. Getting teen fathers engaged with the mother and child is the key to long-term success.
Single fathers make up a small but rapidly growing population. The largest proportion are single fathers due to a divorce. They spend, on average, more time with their children than fathers in other family forms but less time than single mother families. Little is still known about their specific struggles in raising their children.
Divorced fathers often have to overcome hurdles such as the court system to have the level of involvement they want with their children. Differences arise based on custodial arrangements and support from the mother. The higher level of productive involvement by divorced fathers in the lives of their children shows better outcomes.
Nonresident, Noncustodial Fathers
Nonresident fathers, many of whom are noncustodial have to balance responsibilities to be with their children with the level of access they have to their children. The father’s involvement with the children has proven to be a positive influence but many have barriers such as lack of visitation, financial issues and depression.
Incarcerated fathers must work especially hard while they are in prison to stay connected with their children and studies show that the majority of them report having some contact with their children since imprisonment. However, studies have shown that children are at a higher risk of antisocial, delinquent, and aggressive behavior.
Military fathers are motivated to be involved in their children’s lives but struggle during deployment to stay connected and reunify with their families. Struggles include missing developmental milestones, nurturing, staying involved. PTSD can have a negative effect on parenting.
While there is variability in stepfather involvement and relationships with their stepchildren, the majority of stepchildren feel close to their stepfather as they enter adulthood. Stepfather involvement has been shown to improve the nonresident biological father-child relationship and the children’s adjustment.
Predictors of Father Absence and Engagement
Fathers involved with their children as infants tend to remain involved as their children age.
Researchers that have analyzed predictors of father involvement found that living situations, marital status, substance abuse and self-esteem were significant predictors of father involvement. Age, race, employment status, income, depressive symptoms, social support, and stressful situations were not. Their findings indicate the need for more comprehensive fatherhood programs.
The influence of race and ethnicity on nonresidential father’s involvement in terms of time, engagement, shared responsibility, and coparenting with mothers was researched. The results found that black fathers shared responsibilities more frequently and displayed more effective coparenting than both Hispanic and white fathers.
Impact of Marriage
Researchers found that fathers who either were married to the mother or cohabitated demonstrated the highest levels of father involvement. The findings also revealed:
children born to cohabitating parents were five times more likely to experience the separation of their parents compared to children of married couples
fathers who transitioned to marriage increased their level of involvement over time at a faster rate than the continuously married fathers
82% of married fathers played with their very young coresidential children (under the age of 5) every day compared to 68% of cohabitating and unmarried fathers
single parent and cohabitating households are more susceptible to family instability, which subsequently hinders early child cognitive development, than married households.
What the Bible Says About Fathers
Fatherhood was one of the first jobs God gave men. Immediately after creating Adam and Eve, God commanded them to “be fruitful and multiply.” (Genesis 1:28) One of His primary purposes for marriage was offspring who would fill the earth with God’s praise and glory. However, providing sperm for conception is merely the beginning of God’s expectations for fathers. The Bible provides many points of guidance on what God’s expectation is to be a good father.
Here are just a few verses that describe a father’s role:
Psalm 103:13 – As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him.
Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Proverbs 20:7 – The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him!
Colossians 3:21 – Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
Proverbs 4:1-9 – Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother, he taught me and said to me, “Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments and live. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth. …
Proverbs 13:24 – Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
3 John 1:4 – I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.
Psalm 127:3-5 – Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
An article published by Got Questions Ministries identified ten characteristics of a godly father. Some men who want to be good fathers have little understanding of what a godly father looks like. Here are the 10 characteristics identified:
A godly father knows God – It should be without stating, but many men want their children to have a relationship with God but do not have that relationship themselves. Children model what they see. So godly fatherhood begins within the heart of a man.
A godly father loves and honors his wife – it has been said that the best gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. Even if a man is divorced or single, he can still model respectful behavior towards his child’s mother. Children imitate what they see.
A godly father accepts responsibility for his children’s spiritual training – While providing financially for a family is an important responsibility for fathers (1 Timothy 5:8) it is not their only responsibility. A father must encourage Christian character in his children by his example as well as his words of instruction and the expectations of behavior he sets forth for and enforces with his children.
A godly father is continually aware of his influence – fathers may not realize it but everything they do is influencing their children. Words alone are not enough.
A godly father models selfless service – much of Jesus’ earthly life was given to serving others. As followers of Jesus, we are to imitate that service (Matthew 20:28). Godly fathers figure out ways to involve their children in acts of service.
A godly father is consistent – nothing confuses children more than inconsistency, either in discipline or example. A father that is loving one minute and angry the next creates insecurity in his children.
A godly father disciplines his children appropriately – discipline is a part of child-rearing and should not be ignored or solely delegated to the mother. Hebrews 12:9-10 reminds us that earthly fathers disciplined us for our own good and our heavenly Father does the same.
A godly father does not allow himself to be controlled by outside influences. Addictions such as alcohol or drugs often create a home environment marked by insecurity, fear, and depression. Fathers that display addictive behaviors often teach their children to do the same.
A godly father is a man under authority – Due to his sinful nature, a man will fight to be his own boss. However, Jesus demonstrated that He was a Man under the authority of his heavenly Father. He readily gave credit to God for His successes and submitted Himself fully to the will of God.
A godly father will lead – the world is in desperate need of men who will lead wisely. Leadership is not domination or control. A leader is one who goes first. He sets the pace for the family by practicing what he preaches. He is on the lookout for dangers and takes initiative to protect his family from them. He is a man that his children can be proud of (Proverbs 17:6)
Building Fathers Into Real POPS
Being a strong father is making a commitment to being the best POPS, Protector, Order keeper, Provider and Stabilizer to your children, families and communities.
Protector – Keeping Kids Safe
Mature, responsible fathers play an indispensable part in making homes, neighborhoods, and schools safe for children.
Order keeper – Prevention and Pride
Fathers are vital to the well-being of families and preventing family and community violence.
Provider – You are your child’s biggest resource
Effective fathering includes providing for your children’s financial, emotional, spiritual, and educational needs.
Stabilizer – Encourage, Empower and Engage
The biggest key to a stable family and community is active, loving, committed, engaged, and involved fathers.
Breaking the Cycle of Father Absence
It is time to address this epidemic of fatherless homes. The facts prove this is a major problem that only continues to grow. It hurts families, communities and most importantly children. It has become a large cost on society both emotionally and financially. It is time to take a stand.
Fathering Strong was built with the purpose of reaching fathers where they are. Our platform provides fathers a network for peer support, mutual encouragement, and educational resources to maximize their efforts to enhance their relationship with their children, small steps at a time. The Fathering Strong community seeks to build godly fathers all over the world as they connect and share their experiences and struggles while getting the support they need to grow within their own faith journey. We believe fathers are better together.