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Father’s Day Auction

Sunday, June 20th | 5:00 PM EST

We are very excited to invite you to our Father’s Day Auction! With a special appearance from John Legend. Popz Topz will be auctioning four hats S/M/L/XL, autographed by the Legendary singer. Tickets are $40, with only 96 seats available. A portion of the proceeds will be donated to ”Urban Light Ministries Fatherhood Program.” Come and join us on June 20th at 5:00PM EST. The Auction will be held virtually. Click the Add To Cart button above reserve your seat today. We hope to see you there!!

Fatherhood Honor Goes National

Fatherhood honor goes national with new name for award

Urban Light Ministries wants to shine a light on good dads everywhere.

By Kermit Rowe
Contributing Writer

CLARK COUNTY 

Urban Light Ministries is celebrating a decade of honoring local fathers and father figures by renaming and expanding its popular annual fatherhood award.

Starting this year, the honor will be known as The Good Dad Award and has been expanded to include fathers and father figures everywhere through online nominations, not just local ones.

Relatives and friends are encouraged to nominate awesome fathers and father figures at no charge at urbanlight.org/good-dad-award.

Award winners will receive a free personalized, printable certificate and congratulatory letter via email.

“With father absence being a global crisis, we take seriously our responsibility to go ‘into all the world,’ ” said ULM founder and President Eli Williams. “The internet enables us to expand our reach nationally and internationally.

“Some communities do not have a local fatherhood award,” he continued. “The Good Dad Award can serve as any community’s award by organizing a local event for a public awards presentation on Father’s Day weekend or any other time.”

In Clark County, all local Good Dad Award winners will be presented their certificates June 19 at 1 p.m. during the annual Juneteenth/ FatherFest. The event will run from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. at The Gammon House Museum, 620 Piqua Place, in Springfield. Festivities start with a 5K walk/run at 8 a.m.; beginning at 10 a.m. there will be exhibits, tours, food, resource tents and more. A Value Of Black Fathers discussion group will kick the week off on June 12 at 10 a.m. at COhatch.

This a part of ULM’s revamped approach to recognizing fathers.

“One of our mission’s original strategies has been to encourage men to be the best dads they can be for their children, families and communities,”

Williams said. “It is one of the most important responsibilities a man has in life. The Good Dad Award is a way to counter the negative images of fathers that are so pervasive in entertainment.

It’s a way to assist others in obeying the biblical command to honor fathers.”

The aim of The Good Dad Award is to recognize the crucial role fathers play in their children’s well-being and development, and to raise awareness of the value of fathers in their families and in their communities. The award identifies and honors outstanding fathers for their exceptional commitment to raising their children and/or for their exemplary contributions to the development of children in their communities.

In 2011, Springfield-based Urban Light Ministries announced a new fatherhood award called My Dad ROCKS. The name of the award changed in 2014 to the Clark County Community Fatherhood Awards. Eligibility expanded to include father figures of every type, and nominators no longer needed to be the minor child of the nominee. In 2020, a record 23 fathers received the award.

“Any male serving in a father-type role needs encouragement and should be honored, as he may be the only dad some children and youth have,” Williams said. “This includes grandfathers and other male relatives, mentors, coaches, teachers and others who are important to children.”

ULM’s resources for fathers includes its free online introduction to healthy fatherhood course POPS 101. It is available in English and Spanish and online at www.urbanlight.org.

Available are a video series for fathers, a downloadable dads devotional, the book and study guide “Father Love: The Powerful Resource Every Dad Needs” by Williams, and other materials. ULM also provides fatherhood workshops and courses for use by churches, organizations and conferences. 

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New Father Love Discussion Group

A NEW DADS DISCUSSION GROUP IS FORMING NOW

When: Weekly on Tuesdays | 7:00 PM to 8:00 PM | August 3 through October 26, 2021

Where: COhatch Heritage Room, Downtown Springfield

PROGRAM DESCRIPTION

Facilitated conversation on fatherhood using the Bible-based book Father Love – The Powerful Resource Every Child Needs by Eli Williams.  Each participant receives a copy of the book and Study Guide.  Thesessions lead dads through a deeper dive into male-style parenting and helps men build bonds with other fathers for fellowship and peer mentoring.

SUMMARY

  • Thirteen (13) one-hour sessions
  • Interactive Power Point® Presentations
  • Stimulating and encouraging conversations
  • Challenging Action Steps toward growing from good to great

SOME OF THE TOPICS COVERED

  • FATHER LOVE DEFINED
  • LOVE IS PATIENT AND KIND
  • LOVE IS NOT EASILY ANGERED
  • FATHER LOVE IS NURTURING
  • LOVE BEARS ALL THINGS
  • THE CREATOR’S FATHER LOVE
  • Others

Materials

  • Book
  • Study Guide

About the Author and Discussion Facilitator

Eli Williams is a husband, father, grandfather and ordained minister. He is president and co-founder of Urban Light Ministries (www.urbanlight.org) which provides a weekly after school program serving nearly 800 children annually.  ULM operates a fatherhood program that since 2006 has annually impacted over 500 dads and their kids. Learn more at www.pastoreli.com.

Registration ends July 27, 2021

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Fathers Day Prayers and Scripture

What Father’s Day Prayers are the best for honoring your dad?

“Dad, he dreams, he plans, he struggles, that we might have the best.  His sacrifice is quiet. His life is love expressed.

The role of the dad is one of the most powerful influences on a child’s life.  A dad has the amazing opportunity to “teach, encourage, instruct, mentor, praise, influence, guide and inspire” the next generation. 

May these Father’s Day Prayers and Scriptures encourage you and give you hope.

“One night a father overheard his son pray: Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is. Later that night, the Father prayed, Dear God, make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.”

How powerful those words are from the son to the dad and from the dad to the Son of Man! We desire to be the kind of person that our Heavenly Father wants us to be and yet we know in our human nature, we sometimes fall short. Not to worry, each day is a new opportunity, start today to become the man, the dad, God has intended for you.

Read Psalm 86 and focus on these verses;
“Have mercy on me, O Lord, for I call to you all day long.” (Psalm 86:3)
“Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord, my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever.”
(Psalm 86:11-12)

Prayer:  Dear Heavenly Father, teach me your ways and guide me in your truths.  Help me to be the best dad I can be, guiding my family with patience, speaking with wisdom and abiding in love.  Amen

More Father’s Day Bible Verses to Ponder

Perseverance

And as for you brothers, never tire of doing what is right.

2 Thessalonians 3:13

Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, help me to remember the words from Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, and not for men….” At the end of the day I come to you with a grateful heart for all you have provided for me and my family. Amen

Patience

Father Devotional Ebook

Do everything without complaining or arguing.

Philippians 2;14

Prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, help me to teach my children to be thankful instead of ungrateful. We may not always have the same things that others have, but we have enough. Help me to show my children that you, Oh God of grace and mercy, will provide for my family. Amen

For more Father’s Day verses and Father’s Day Prayers please download the Father’s Day Devotional.

Panelist Announced for Upcoming Black Fathers Matter Event

A LIVE Stream panel discussion will be held on June 12 at 10:00 am.

Event PartnerEvent Funded By

Panel Moderator

Eli Williams

The panel moderated by Pastor Eli Williams, President of Urban Light Ministries, will discuss the value of black fathers and correct the myth that black fatherhood is dead.

Pastor Eli Williams’s passion for fatherhood is rooted in his upbringing and is stoked by his personal work with fathers. Many of whom, for a wide variety of reasons, endure heartache and face tremendous barriers to full participation in the raising of their children. He facilitates Dad’s Discussion Groups in churches and with males at other venues.

He is the author of the book Father Love.  Father Love explores the concept of love as it is described in the word of God, and considers its application for dads.  The book encourages and inspires a father to give his child what no one else on earth can . . . his best, fully-developed Father Love.

The panelist of distinguished and experienced professionals in the fatherhood field will dispel the myth and honor good fathers and celebrate them for what they contribute to the children, families and their communities.

Topics discussed will include:

  • Father’s Day is Every Day – The Importance and Influence of the Black Father
  • Black Dads Matter
  • The truth: Black Fathers are more involved

The Panelist for the Discussion

Muqit A. Sabur

Muqit is the founder and leader of the Center for Fatherhood and Family Dynamics(CFFD). He has worked in the areas of fathers, families, men and relationships for more than 25 years. He created CFFD in 2009 to continue his work and delivers training, coaching and group facilitation to those seeking to enhance the relationships with which they are part.

Muqit has served as the founding president of the Ohio’s Practioner’s Network for Fathers and Families, leading the organization through its development stages. Continuing his commitment to community and families, Muqit is co-founder and currently president of the Neighborhood Leadership Institute (Cleveland, Ohio), which has trained nearly 1,000 Ohio residents to develop their leadership skills and serve in their communities.

An author (The Art of Transformation: A guide for facilitating fathers groups) and a major contributor to a guide for developing Fatherhood programs: he is a Polarity Thinking/Management consultant, a Gestalt trained Intervener, and Life Coach.

He is the father of five adult children and the grandfather of six, the youngest of whom is seven.

Calvin Williams, CLC

Calvin Williams is the President of Lucian Families Inc., a Cincinnati, Ohio-based company providing training, program development and innovation strategies to community-based, public and private organizations that serve fathers, parents, co-parents, and couples.

He is a Certified Lactation Counselor and is the co-author of, and Master Trainer for PREP Inc.’s “On My Shoulders” fatherhood curriculum. Mr. Williams previously served as the Director of Fatherhood Services for Public Strategies Inc. in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Before joining Public Strategies, Mr. Williams was as the Program Director for two Cincinnati-based fatherhood programs: The Lighthouse Youth Services REAL Dads Program, and the Services United for Mothers and Adolescents Fatherhood Project.

He helped launch the Community Building Institute at Xavier University in Cincinnati, Ohio, serving as the initial Co-Director there, and is a founding and current board member for the Ohio Practitioners Network for Fathers & Families.

Glenn Harris

Glenn A. Harris, is the Assistant Director of Prevention responsible for gender-based violence prevention, training, and support geared toward creating and supporting communities where all people can live free of violence within their relationships and establishing healthier definitions of masculinity and healthier norms surrounding gender-based violence.

Glenn’s primary role is engaging men & boys in domestic and sexual violence prevention with Ohio Men’s Action Network (OHMAN). In this role, Glenn will co-facilitate “OHMAN presents….The New Playbook: Standing Strong to Promote Non-Violence’, and facilitate various conversations with stakeholders across Ohio.

Prior to ODVN, Glenn’s background includes working in the arenas of; Responsible Fatherhood, Ex-Offender Re-Entry, and Youth Mentoring. Additionally, Glenn still serves as a board member with the Ohio Practitioners Network for Fathers and Families (OPNFF), the S.I.M.B.A. (Safe in My Brothers Arms) mentoring program, and the Central Ohio Restored Citizen Collaborative. A graduate of Otterbein University with a Bachelors in both Business Administration and Religion, Glenn has been with ODVN since August 2019.

The Value of Black Fathers

Join us on June 12th at 10:00 am as we discuss with top panelists important misconceptions concerning black fathers.

Click here to read more about the event and panelists.

Click here to register for the event

Correct the myth… Black Fatherhood is not dead. Let us honor good fathers and celebrate them for what they contribute to the children, families and their communities. Educate on the importance of engaged dads in general (all races).

Fathers’ Day? Every Day — The Importance And Influence Of The Black Father

Beyond being often classified as mere sperm donors, the role of fathers in the lives of children — especially black males — have never been more important, or necessary, than it is right now. One mommy, two mommies, or 27 mommies is no substitute for one daddy.  Black men bring power into a family, and the knowledge, the energy, the development when they are there, makes the whole world an unlimited universe. However, when they are absent, it takes away from the power of the Black family.

The power of having a Black father, or a Black man, in the home is tremendous, because it gives symbolism. The Black father should be a role model for his children, and all children in his community. If he is in the home, then that’s leadership. That is the role of a man — providing, nurturing, caring and teaching.

In the absence of that, it falls to a woman. A woman cannot understand how to be a man. It is both mentally and biologically impossible. And when that man is absent, then it falls to the uncles, the church, to the community and to the village. – Yvonne Sam, http://pridenews.ca/2018/06/11/fathers-day-every-day-power-black-father/

Black Fathers Matter

What happens… when there are impediments to both the presence and participation of fathers in the lives of children, particularly Black fathers?  Conservatives often address this question by contending that Black fathers are not adequately present and involved with their families. They push to create policies that encourage marriage among families, particularly Black families, as a way to foster child well-being and success.

The share of Black children born to single mothers has more than tripled from about 24% in 1960 to nearly 70% in 2018, indicating that Black fathers are less likely to live in households with their children than fathers of other races. But it’s important to note the share of children in single-mother families among all races has risen dramatically since the 1960s.

Moreover, we now know that among nonresidential fathers, Black fathers are more involved than Hispanic dads and share more responsibilities and generally co-parent better than white or Hispanic nonresidential fathers. Still, nonresidential Black fathers face myriad barriers to being a stable, consistent support to their children because of other systemic challenges that conservatives often overlook. – Black Dads Matter by Kenneth Braswell, https://ifstudies.org/blog/black-dads-matter

The Truth: Black fathers are more involved

We cannot equate the number of unmarried dads to the number of “fatherless” children. First of all, marriage rates don’t necessarily reflect the number of Black fathers living with their children; as writer Josh Levs points out, the majority of Black dads (2.5 million of around 4.2 million) do live with their kids, even if they’re not married to their partner.

And second of all, according to a 2013 report by the CDC, Black dads—whether they live with their children, or not—are more actively involved in their children’s lives than their counterparts of other races.

For example, the CDC reports that Black fathers who live with their children are more likely than fathers of other races to provide physical care (bathe, diaper, feed) for their young children, read to their children, and help their children with their homework—all on a daily basis—than fathers of other races who also cohabitate with their kids.

The report also reveals that, among dads who don’t live with their children, Black dads are more likely to be involved in care, including reading to their children, helping them with homework, talking to them about their days, and taking them to activities, than Hispanic or white dads who live apart from their kids. Non-residential Black fathers are also the least likely to report that they’re not at all involved in the care of their children, including bathing, dressing, changing diapers, and playing with their children. – Alecia Eberhardt-Smith,  August 11, 2020 https://www.givelegacy.com/resources/the-truth-about-black-fatherhood/

For example, the CDC reports that Black fathers who live with their children are more likely than fathers of other races to provide physical care (bathe, diaper, feed) for their young children, read to their children, and help their children with their homework—all on a daily basis—than fathers of other races who also cohabitate with their kids.

The report also reveals that, among dads who don’t live with their children, Black dads are more likely to be involved in care, including reading to their children, helping them with homework, talking to them about their days, and taking them to activities, than Hispanic or white dads who live apart from their kids. Non-residential Black fathers are also the least likely to report that they’re not at all involved in the care of their children, including bathing, dressing, changing diapers, and playing with their children. – Alecia Eberhardt-Smith,  August 11, 2020 https://www.givelegacy.com/resources/the-truth-about-black-fatherhood/

Restoring the Family to the Creator’s Design

In the beginning, the Creator designed the perfect plan for the establishment, nurturance, maintenance, and perpetuation of the human race.  The family.  Fathers and mothers raising children together in the same home, and in the worship and discipline of the Lord.  Loving parents providing everything their children need to grow up holistically healthy, safe, educated, skilled, and prepared to eventually raise their own families.  It is a simple plan, really.  Father and mother become parenting partners for life.  Each child completes their education, begins a career, falls in love, gets married, and has children.  Repeat generation after generation. 

Fast forward.  What do we see today?  Unwed birth rates as high as 70%.  The father absence crisis.  Divorce.  Single parent households.  The resulting poverty, child abuse and neglect, academic failure, youth crime, behavioral, emotional and psychological problems, drug abuse.  The list goes on. 

What happened?  The divine order was rejected.  God’s original vision for the family, which was intended by Him for the healthy development of civilization, is viewed by many as antiquated.  The need for a live-in dad has been questioned.  The concept of a God-ordained male family head has been denounced as gender biased.  Men and women have been freed to practice sex outside of marriage. Becoming pregnant out of wedlock has lost its former stigma.  Hence, we are experiencing the breakdown of the family, and the failure of family formation. We are on a path toward the very collapse of society.  Is it too late to turn things around?  Perhaps.  However, as Christians, we have been given a charge to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world. 

Jesus proclaimed: 13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.

14 “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. 16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. – Matthew 5:13-16

As salt preserves meat, our responsibility is to do everything we can to keep the rotting world alive until Jesus comes again.  As darkness tries to overwhelm mankind, our job is to shine as lights to show people the Father’s love and His righteous ways.  One way we can be salt and light is by the good work of restoring the family to God’s original design, and by giving the Father the glory for all that results.  The logical place to start is in the Church.  I don’t think I’ve ever met a pastor that didn’t acknowledge there needs to be a fatherhood strengthening ministry in his church.  Because we are at crisis stage, I believe we must go beyond fatherhood classes. 

There is needed a multigenerational Christian male development and enrichment initiative.  Young men, grown men and senior men simultaneously learning, teaching, and rediscovering God’s plan.  Each with a Timothy to mentor, and each with a Paul to emulate.  It’s like the threefold cord spoken of by King Solomon (Eccl 4:9-12).  Two strands are good, but a triple-braided cord is stronger.  We need each other… sons, dads, and grandfathers… working together to restore the power of godly maleness for the sake of strengthening families.  By starting with the Church, we are positioned to raise up an army of mature, responsible, scripture informed, Spirit-filled men.  Together, we can serve as witnesses to a world that has lost the vision of the Creator’s design for humanity.      

Urban Light Ministries has begun an innovative initiative to accomplish the above, using my book Father Love – The Powerful Resource Every Child Needs and the companion study guide.  After a conversation with my friend Pastor Sam Bryant in the fall of 2018, Sam and the church leadership agreed to serve as the site for a pilot of a scripture-based enrichment class for their males.  Beginning January 6, 2019, each Sunday for thirteen weeks, the teens, college students and men meet during the Sunday School hour at Cornerstone Baptist Church in Springfield.  With the aid of video clips and a Power Point presentation, I facilitate an hour-long conversation around fatherhood, manhood and spiritual leadership in the home.  Each participant has purchased a book and study guide.  Each week they are given a reading and action steps.  The following week, a discussion is facilitated on the assigned topic.  Attendance has been averaging two dozen.  Active participation is growing each week as the guys become more comfortable.  

Father Love Dad’s Discussion Group Topics Include:

  –  Father Love Defined

  –  Love Is Patient And Kind

  –  Love Is Not Easily Angered

  –  Father Love Is Nurturing

  –  Love Bears All Things

  –  Love Endures All Things And Never Fails

  –  The Creator’s Father Love

Urban Light Ministries has also developed the POPS 101 Online Program.  POPS 101 is a four-session introduction to healthy fathering.  The content is appropriate for use in non-religious settings such as schools, jails, and drug rehab centers.  If you would like to know more about Father Love or POPS 101 please contact me at the address below.

Eli Williams, President

Urban Light Ministries
PO Box 3132
Springfield, OH 45501

Email: EWILLIAMS@URBANLIGHT.ORG

ELI WILLIAMS AWARDED THE NEHEMIAH FOUNDATION’S 2020 LEADERSHIP AWARD

Congratulations to Eli Williams for being awarded the Nehemiah Foundations 2020 Leadership Award.  Pastor Eli Williams has presented the award at the Nehemiah Foundation’s annual Leadership breakfast meeting on November 19, 2020.  The Leadership Award is presented to individuals in the community that has made a positive impact based on the foundation’s principles of Pray, Unify, Equip and Mobilize. 

The Impact God Had On Me as a Father

A father’s heart is built on the foundation of a relationship with the Heavenly Father which makes for a strong family. This video reveals three father’s stories on what the Heavenly Father has meant in their lives and roles as a father to their families.

Mikes Story:

When I was age 10 my dad received Jesus into his heart. It was like a light switch went on in our home. The fighting that was happening daily ceased. My father was reading the Bible. He seemed to take more time with us as kids and got more involved in our lives. We began to go to church and over time that just began to bring about a huge change in our home and in our lives.

Curtis Story:

If I didn’t have a relationship with God then none of this is possible. It’s like you’re giving God the control and not the control of your life but the belief that he’s gonna lead you in the direction you need to go. It’s just so powerful that I’m getting goosebumps talking about it. Being in his will is the best thing that ever had to happen to me. I’m a living example of what God can do for you and that’s more powerful than anything I can say.

Phil’s Story:

One of the biggest things is the fact that I could forgive my own father now. My father left and he scarred me. But now that I have that relationship with God and I know that I’ve been forgiven for all the mistakes I made in the past. The Lord knows I wasn’t perfect. I’ve been able to forgive my own father. My hope now is that I will see him in heaven. I think that he found that same forgiveness and love through Jesus Christ that I did so that I will get to meet him again in heaven. When it comes to my son, Jacob it’s important for me to be that witness to show him. He has seen the change in me, big time actually. I’m proud of that. He’s been able to see that walked I have now. That I’ve changed and that I’m the type of person I want him to be. I just have to continue to be a witness for Jesus Christ and be that example of Jesus Christ to him.

Curtis Story – What Father Love Did for Him

The Impact Father Love made on Curtis as a Dad

Hi, my name is Curtis from New Hope Church. Taking a class presented by Eli Williams.

I was in church and it was suggested by my Pastor to take a class called Father Love. It teaches you about how the way God loves you. I went to the class and immediately the classes had a direct impact. I felt as if Eli was speaking straight to me in a room full of multiple men. I was learning tools about a father’s love and how to love my kids as God loves me.

It taught me how to be more caring and forgiving and more patient. Also less angry. The class benefited my children and me. When I started utilizing the tools and acknowledging the way that God loves me with my own kids I saw a direct impact, an immediate impact in the way I feel and the way my children look at me now.